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What Kind of Woman are You? Defying Patriarchy & Honing Your Authentic Femininity Based on Your Venus Sign + Personalized Horoscopes for You

The overwhelming majority of Women are not their true selves; they are who society told them to be. Learn how patriarchy has distorted what it means to be a Woman and how you can reclaim and hone your unique, authentic femininity based on the Venus sign in your astrological birth chart. Horoscopes for all 12 Venus signs are included. Check out yours at the end.



 

“Femininity equals power. Power is the expression of the feminine aspect.” -Ayesha K. Faines (R.I.P.)


Patriarchal Templates

Patriarchy is to Women what “white supremacy” has been to Black people, except patriarchy is a much older, deeply-ingrained system that is arguably more pervasive than racism. Patriarchy—an oppressive system in which men hold most of the social, political, and economic power based on the false ideology of male superiority and female inferiority—has created a deep imbalance in societies across the globe. Its consequences ripple through every aspect of life. As just one example, patriarchy has established gender norms and expectations using rigid constraints to define what it means to be a Woman and what it means to be “feminine” and “lady-like.” Women are expected and pressured to be submissive, selfless, agreeable, polite, and easygoing. This rigid, narrow standard is incongruent with most Women’s true nature, therefore limiting Women’s full expression of their potential and denying Women the freedom to explore and embrace their authentic selves. The patriarchal notion of femininity was designed to serve the male gaze, male ego, and male interests, at the expense of Women.


Women Are Agents Of Patriarchy, Too

When Women operate outside of the narrow, patriarchal prescription of femininity, they are punished. Domestic violence, street violence, bullying, and ostracism are overt examples of such punishment. Interestingly, men aren’t the only ones doing the punishing. Women punish other Women too, especially in more covert yet harmful ways. In fact, as an empowered, unconventional Woman, I receive more backlash from other Women than from men for defying the patriarchal template. I know other Women who also share my experience.


Due to Women being patriarchally programmed and not doing the self-work to break free from it, generally, Women are deeply insecure and lack personal power. Insecure, disempowered people say and do strange things. Couple this with the fact that many Women are emotionally expressive, making them susceptible to projecting their visceral discomforts onto other Women. When they see an empowered Woman saying and doing things they were programmed to believe that Women shouldn’t say or do, it elicits cognitive dissonance, jealousy, envy, and contempt. An empowered Woman's authenticity serves as a mirror to the disempowered Woman's inauthenticity, mediocrity, and lack of power. If the disempowered Woman is wise, though, she would seize this mirror experience as an opportunity for growth rather than contention. I am grateful to the powerful Women I've encountered along my Womanhood journey who served as models of authenticity and mirrors that led me to myself. Their mere presence played an integral role in my shift from being disempowered to powerful.


Women punishing other Women takes on many forms. It looks like sabotaging the job of their reserved female coworker who stays to herself and doesn't subscribe to their groupthink. It looks like calling a Woman mean for enforcing healthy boundaries, something most Women lack and need to learn. It looks like deeming a Woman as “masculine” for being opinionated, assertive, or independent. It looks like criticizing a Woman for being “boujee” because she wants the finer things in life. It looks like being offended by a Woman who thinks and speaks highly of herself, especially when said confidence is based in facts. It looks like telling a Woman she’s “too serious” for being resolute about her goals and standards.


All of these punishments are psychological and spiritual attacks on the Woman’s psyche and essence that keep Women "in their place," patriarchally speaking. These punishments instill shame and self-doubt in Women, hence why so many Women have shrunk themselves to avoid punishment. Ultimately, Women who punish Women for coloring outside of the patriarchal lines uphold patriarchy. They participate in their own oppression and the oppression of girls and Women across the globe. Don't be one of these Women.


Performative Femininity

Another way Women internalize and perpetuate patriarchal ideals is by promoting performative femininity. This is prominently seen in the influx of femininity platforms and femininity coaches that have proliferated across social media in the past few years. The gist of their efforts is teaching Women superficial femininity tactics in order to get a man: “Use a baby voice when speaking to your man.” “Pretend to be a damsel in distress.” “Wear a French manicure, never wear bright-colored nail polish.” “Slowly walk into a room and slowly glide off your sunglasses to appear mysterious.” I’m not saying that all of their tips are useless. My point is that their ideals don’t constitute femininity. They are teaching Women how to pretend. It’s manipulative and inauthentic. It’s cap. 🧢 Many Women are playing in someone else’s clothes.


I recall scrolling by a clip of a Woman teaching her female audience to always smile, be agreeable and friendly, have an open body language, and oblige to men when dealing with them. Her tips will get girls and Women robbed, kidnapped, and murked in the hood and in many other circumstances. Furthermore, many femininity coaches are dishonest about the outcomes of their femininity advice. A well-known femininity influencer, for example, built her platform by condemning Black Women for being "masculine," all while her gender ideologies have led her to yet another domestic violence relationship.


Most of these femininity influencers are ill-equipped to teach Women: They have not begun their self-work and addressed their traumas, they are nowhere near the path of self-mastery, they are out of touch with their authentic selves, they are still shackled by religious indoctrination, they have not deprogrammed from patriarchy, and they don't know shit about the truth of male nature. Many of them are lost Women repackaging and peddling outdated patriarchal tropes to an audience of lost Women, all while capitalizing off of their desperation and vulnerability. It is the blind leading the blind. A true coach or teacher leads you back to your authentic self, not pressure you to squeeze yourself to fit a one-size-fits-all template. Cultivating your authentic self requires deep inner work and a lifelong commitment to personal development and self-mastery.


The task of Women who want freedom, happiness, power, and prosperity is to defy patriarchy and return to her true, authentic self. Contrary to the one-size-fits-all femininity template that the patriarchy has foisted upon Women, the "authentic self" varies tremendously across the 4 billion Women on Earth. Every Woman is supposed to look, think, sound, dress, behave, and show up differently than the next Woman. This is the beauty of Womanhood.


Who are you, really, if patriarchy didn’t exist and TOLD you who you were? Be her.


What Is Authentic Femininity?

Today’s notions of Womanhood and femininity are distorted, false, and patriarchal. Contrary to popular belief, being feminine does not equate to being soft, sweet, delicate, pleasant, quiet, agreeable, beautiful, or docile, nor is it defined by a Woman’s affiliation with a man.


The feminine aspect is fluid, boundless, dark, and elusive. Femininity has everything to do with embodying the essence of God by operating as a Creator with the associated characteristics: Creative, destructive, powerful, decisive, intelligent, wise, and nourishing. Creativity is the hallmark of femininity. Moreover, femininity is choosing to express whichever version of her essence that she gat damn pleases. Women can be as soft (or not) as they want, but being soft or not soft doesn't define femininity. What makes a Woman feminine is wielding her autonomy and exercising her discretion to be soft or not soft from a place of power and wholeness, not from patriarchy, not from unresolved traumas, not from religious indoctrination, not from parents, not from peer pressure, and not from societal expectations.


To reiterate, HOW a Woman chooses to express her God-energy is completely up to her discretion. The expression does not define her Womanhood; exercising her power to choose makes her feminine. Some God-embodied Women are rough. Some are kind. Some are sexy. Some are playful. Some are quirky. Some are moody. Some are tomboys. Some are sweet as pie. Some are strict. Some are loud. Some are demanding. Some are big-ole-freaks. Some are quiet. Some are feral. Some are vengeful. Some are ALL there is. The truly God-embodied Woman is a masterful chameleon of HER OWN varied traits. She is what she needs and wants to be at any given moment and uses intelligent discernment in doing so.


Astrology As A Means To Authentic Femininity

Because Women have been socialized and programmed with distorted gender norms, Women must work to develop their authentic femininity. By authentic femininity, I’m referring to embodying and operating in your true, unique God-like power.


Fortunately, astrology is an invaluable tool that can be used to discover, heal, and reclaim your femininity and harness your unique feminine power.


Your astrological birth chart contains a few indications of your individualized, authentic femininity. For example, your Moon reveals your innermost needs, your nurturing style, and even your menstrual cycle. Your Lilith (Black Moon Lilith) points to your hidden untamed, independent, wild nature that the patriarchy forced you to suppress. Your Venus indicates how you express your femininity, what makes you alluring, the style of your aesthetic, and how you can best attract money and resources.


To comprehensively understand your authentic femininity, an astrology reading is needed to interpret your Moon, Lilith, and Venus in tandem with one another and within the context of your entire birth chart, including your houses, house rulers, planets, aspects, and degrees. I offer comprehensive astrology readings at Ninth House Consulting. However, understanding your Venus sign is one of the first steps to unlocking the full picture of your femininity potential.


What Is Venus?

Venus is the Roman goddess of love and beauty. In astrology, Venus reigns over all things enchanting: our desires, artistic expression, and how we navigate intimate connections. It also rules over material possessions, such as money, clothing, and furniture. Your natal Venus in your birth chart is an expression of your personal values, self-worth, resources, and method for attracting your desires. In short, your Venus represents how you "do Womanhood" if you are a Woman. In a man’s chart, his Venus indicates the type of Woman he likes.


How To Find Your Venus

To learn about your natal Venus, you’ll need to find it in your birth chart. Gather your birth date, time, and location (city and country) and enter this birth information into any birth chart calculator online. One of my favorites that I recommend to newbies is Cafe Astrology. If you don’t know your birth time, then select “unknown.” Find your Venus. The symbol looks like this: ♀


Look for the zodiac sign of your Venus. If you know you birth time, also look for the house in which your Venus resides.


Horoscopes: What Your Venus Says About Your Femininity

In this section, I take you on a journey through the 12 realms of Venus, where each sign paints a unique hue on your tapestry of femininity. For each Venus, I explore its unique characteristics, highlight its hidden gems, and offer precautions that guide you towards an authentic expression of your femininity.


Be sure to look for the description of your Venus sign and your Venus house if known. For example, if your Venus is in Gemini in the 8th house, read the descriptions for both Venus in Gemini and Venus in Scorpio.


Let's dive in.


Venus in Aries (or in the 1st House): The Venus in Aries Woman is fiery and independent; your passion burns bright. You enjoy spontaneity, taking risks, and the thrill of the chase. Embrace bold self-expression through assertive style, direct communication, and adventurous pursuits. Embrace a fearless approach to life, take the lead in your endeavors, and seek excitement. But beware of impatience, impulsiveness, and potential dominance. Channel your warrior spirit into self-love and empowering others. Allow space for partnership dynamics to unfold naturally.


Venus in Taurus (or in the 2nd House): The Venus in Taurus Woman is sensuality incarnate; you revel in life's indulgences. Your femininity is grounded and nurturing, creating a comforting and secure environment for yourself and others in relationships. Cultivate self-worth through luxurious experiences, artistic pursuits, and a nurturing presence. Yet, resist inflexibility, possessiveness, and material attachments. Find true abundance in savoring simple pleasures and emotional security.


Venus in Gemini (or in the 3rd House): The Venus in Gemini Woman is a nimble social butterfly; you thrive on intellectual connection and playful exchanges and enjoy variety and intellectual stimulation. You likely attract a variety of people, including various romantic suitors. Your femininity shines through witty conversation, adaptability, and a playful, lighthearted approach to life. Express your charm through friendliness, diverse interests, and a chameleon-like style. Navigate the potential for fickleness and superficiality by seeking depth in connections and fostering sincerity.


Venus in Cancer (or in the 4th House): The Venus in Cancer Woman is emotionally attuned, intuitive, and nurturing; your love blooms in a safe haven, which easily draws people into your orbit. You value emotional bonds and deep, intimate connections. Your femininity is expressed through caring for others and creating a warm and protective atmosphere in relationships. Create your own sanctuary with homey spaces, sentimental treasures, and deep emotional bonding. Guard against codependency and balance vulnerability with healthy boundaries. Remember, your nurturing energy blooms brightest when directed towards yourself.


Venus in Leo (or in the 5th House): The Venus in Leo Woman is radiant, bold, and confident; you are a showstopper who commands attention with your magnetic presence. Your femininity draws people in with warmth, generosity, and a touch of glamour. Express your regal flair through bold fashion, creative endeavors, and unwavering self-belief. But be mindful of theatricality and egotism. Your inner queen shines when empowering others and sharing your spotlight. Fostering mutual appreciation in relationships enhances fulfillment.


Venus in Virgo (or in the 6th House): The Venus in Virgo Woman is meticulous and discriminating; you seek the highest-of-quality in everything in life, love, and aesthetics. You also value health and wellness. Your femininity is refined and thoughtful, expressed through acts of service and attention to detail. Express your charm through thoughtful gestures, practical skills, and an eye for detail. Yet, loosen the shackles of perfectionism and self-criticism. Embrace your imperfections as part of your unique beauty and authentic femininity.


Venus in Libra (or in the 7th House): The Venus in Libra Woman is the diplomat extraordinaire; you are charismatic and charming and have a way with words. Your femininity is gracious and aesthetically pleasing, creating an atmosphere of cooperation and beauty. Express your charm through elegant style, collaborative spirit, and a quest for fairness. Navigate the potential for conflict avoidance and excessive people-pleasing. Find your inner voice and assertively choose partnerships that nurture your soul. Prioritizing authentic connections over harmony at any cost is crucial.


Venus in Scorpio (or in the 8th House): The Venus in Scorpio Woman is enigmatic and intense; your nature is to delve into the depths. You are likely drawn to psychology, astrology, or the occult. You value transformative and intimate connections and deep emotional bonds. Your femininity is magnetic and passionate, drawing others in through your mysterious aura. Beware of possessiveness and emotional manipulation. Navigate trust issues cautiously. Cultivating openness and vulnerability can lead to authentic and lasting connections.


Venus in Sagittarius (or in the 9th House): The Venus in Sagittarius Woman is adventurous yet wise; you seek freedom and intellectual expansion. You value connections based on shared beliefs and exploration. Your femininity is expansive and carefree and is colored with a sense of optimism and enthusiasm. Express your charm through a free-spirited approach, intellectual curiosity, and a love of travel. Be mindful of restless commitment and emotional distance. Anchor your adventurous spirit with unwavering self-belief and grounded connections.


Venus in Capricorn (or in the 10th House): The Venus in Capricorn Woman is ambitious and responsible; you are serious-minded and build stable partnerships based on shared goals. Your femininity is pragmatic and structured, expressed through commitment and a focus on building a secure future. Express your charm through practical commitments, loyalty, and a sense of achievement. Be mindful of coldness and excessive control tendencies. Nurture your need for emotional connection. Fostering mutual respect and flexibility is vital for relationship health.


Venus in Aquarius (or in the 11th House): The Venus in Aquarius Woman is unconventionally charming and progressive; you seek intellectual connection and rebel against limitations. Your femininity is expressed through open-mindedness, originality, and a desire to contribute to the collective good. Express your charm through independent spirit, innovative ideas, and a humanitarian bent. Navigate the potential for detachment and aloofness. Connect with others on a deeper level by embracing shared values and emotional vulnerability. Balance independence with emotional connection and foster deeper emotional bonds for fulfillment.


Venus in Pisces (or in the 12th House): The Venus in Pisces Woman is mystical and elusive; your essence transcends boundaries and human understanding. You are compassionate and dreamy, and you value emotional and spiritual connection. Your femininity is ethereal and empathetic, creating an atmosphere of compassion and spiritual depth in relationships. Express your charm through artistic expression, intuitive understanding, and a compassionate heart. Guard against blurring boundaries, idealizing others, and self-sacrifice. Remember, self-love, healthy boundaries, and emotional clarity are essential for a fulfilling life.


More About Your Venus


Keep in mind that these generalized horoscopes are based on your Venus sign alone. A comprehensive analysis of your entire birth chart—including aspects and placements of other planets—is needed for a more accurate, nuanced portrait of your unique femininity. Book an astrology reading at Ninth House Consulting to gain deeper insights into your feminine expression.


For example, my Venus is in Libra. Although the above horoscope reflects my feminine essence, it only does so partially. This is because my Venus is located in an awkward house and is squaring multiple planets, including malefic planets. As a result, my Venus is colored by the personalities of each of those squaring planets. This dynamic attests to the challenging journey I've had with self-acceptance, self-love, and interpersonal relationships as well as with navigating my Womanhood and place in the world. Adding more complexity, my Lilith (Black Moon Lilith) also occupies Libra, making me a rebellious, feral version of Libra energy. This blog post is an expression of that. 😄


Lean into your Venus sign. If you’re a Capricorn Venus, don’t feel ashamed of being no-nonsense. If you’re a Leo Venus, revel in being adored and taking up space. If you’re a Pisces Venus, use your dreamy nature to manifest everything you desire. If you’re an Aquarius Venus, fully embrace the fact that you don't fit into this ass-backwards society.


Don’t let patriarchy make you betray yourself. Don’t let patriarchy rob you of your full expression. Unapologetically embrace your authentic femininity.


At Ninth House Consulting, we offer 30-minute and 1-hour birth chart readings. You can book yours on our website at www.NinthHouseConsulting.com.



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